I had to do that so she can learn her lesson. I wasn’t going to enable and allow them to do this to me like they do with everyone else. I was going to teach them the lesson they needed to learn.
anyways, my niece disrespected me and tried to say sorry afterwards like I couldn’t tell how fake her apology was. I can read through her bs. I told her “sorry I don’t accept your fake apology. You said what you said and now I’m going to make you stand on it. It’s time you pack up and leave. Go figure it out where you are going to go because it isn’t here.”
I learned from this that no matter who it is, family friends or stranger…. I’m no longer allowing anyone to stay at my house ever again.
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a few days ago I let my sister and her 21 yo daughter and her daughter’s 8 month old baby stay at my house for a few days because my sister’s bf left her and she just got evicted and had no where to go. Day 2 of them staying here, her daughter and my sister got into a verbal altercation and when I went to break it up and make them stop, her daughter started to scream and yell at me all sorts of mean curse words for no reason at all. I gave her one chance to stop cursing me out in my own home or that I will put her out. Well she didn’t care and she continued disrespecting me in my home and yelling outside all loud and attracting unwanted attention from my neighbors that I didn’t need or want in my life. She made me get out of character and almost beat her a** because one thing you not going to do is come to my home and disrespect me in it! So I told her she needs to pack up her stuff and leave now! Needless to say, all 3 of them packed up and left and now my sister never wants to speak to me again. I regret it so much for trying to help them when I should have known better. They do this to my mom and my other sister all the time and ask for help and a place to stay at for a few weeks and then they dip out again and my sister goes back to her POS loser bf and her daughter follows because she is immature and never had a job in my 21 years of life and her mother takes care of her baby so she knows she can’t do it alone staying anywhere alone so she follows her mother… and it’s just a chaotic life they live that I regret even trying to help them solve and figure out. None of them have jobs and won’t get one. My sister is 40 something years old and hasn’t worked in 10 years and has told me she doesn’t want to work bc she is too “old”. That’s why they live in a damn camper the last 3 years, because that’s all that can afford with her bf’s disability check. And what gets me is how u get evicted from the camper you live in? Her camper is less then $100 a month… and they can’t even afford that? They are not trying to get anywhere in life. They want to mooch on people & go home to home and I just feel sorry for the baby more then anything because he doesn’t deserve to live like that. But they don’t care to do better and change that.
and let’s just say, they are still homeless right now and no one will help. And I don’t feel sorry. I tried to help, and I got disrespected in ways I can’t even begin to explain. I didn’t deserve that. I did to much for them. So they made their bed, now lay in it.
my bf and I have a 3 day limit at our home for any of our family or friends who are Homeless. We don’t charge them anything, we feed them, let them shower, and after that 3rd day - it’s time to go. all we ask is that they clean up after themselves and respect our home and don’t bring anyone here.
Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support.
I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized.
he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that.
he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened.
he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence.
i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me
i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction.
after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly.
things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it.
we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe …
our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far?
this has upset me so much its hard to even function.
